A Guardian's Guide to Addressing Inappropriate Touching with Children
VIDEO: A Video Guide to help address Inappropriate Touching with Children
This is a brief video guide to help parents, guardians, and caretakers start the conversation about inappropriate touching. This media was a collaboration between the Alexandria Police Department and the Center for Alexandria's Children.
Summary discussion points for conversations with your children:
- Tell your children that you want to have a discussion about safety and their bodies and, ensure you frame the conversation around safety rather than abuse.
- Ask your child if anyone has been touching them in an unsafe way or in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable.
- Maintain an open dialogue with your child, and make it clear that they are never to blame for inappropriate touching.
- Tell your child that it is ok to divulge a secret, even if an adult has made them promise not to do so.
- If your child tells you that they have been abused, contact the authorities right away,
- Do not contact the abuser or the institution where the abuse took place.
External Resources:
Other Resources:
Resources to prepare to talk to your kids
https://www.d2l.org/get-help/identifying-abuse/
https://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Healthy-Sexual-Development-2020-1.pdf
https://www.d2l.org/child-grooming-signs-behavior-awareness/
Talking to kids age appropriately
https://www.sexualassaultvictimlawyers.com/talking-to-your-child-about-molestation/
https://www.d2l.org/get-help/being-the-safe-adult/
https://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Talk-to-Kids-Body-Safety_-JTM.pdf
https://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Conversation-Guide-3-to-5.pdf
https://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Conversation-Guide-6-to-8.pdf
Talking about things they have seen or heard in the news
https://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Talking-to-KIds-About-Events-in-News-2020.pdf
Reporting
https://www.alexandriava.gov/ChildAbuse
https://www.d2l.org/get-help/reporting/
If they disclose
https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/what-should-i-do-after-a-child-tells
https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/how-can-i-better-understand-what-my-child-is-going-through
Prevention and Family Safety Toolkits for everyone
- https://www.d2l.org/our-family-safety-toolkit/
- https://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/Family-Code-of-Conduct-Worksheet_fillable.pdf
- https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/tip-sheet-create-a-family-safety-plan
- https://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/D2L-2020-Worksheet-Internet-Safety-v2_fillable.pdf
- https://www.kidsfirstinc.org/how-to-talk-to-youngchildren-about-body-safety/
- https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/camp-safety
- https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/parent-questions-about-school-policies
- https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/ten-things-to-remember-when-you-talk-to-kids-about-sexuality
*We will add additional resources in the future*