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About the Alexandria Domestic Violence Program

The program offers support to victims of domestic violence and their families and friends. Trained volunteers and staff are available 24 hours a day to provide:

crisis intervention and emotional support
advocacy with medical, police, and court systems
short-term individual and group counseling information and referrals

In addition to services for individuals, the staff is also available to provide trainings, information, and presentations to local schools and organizations. The Domestic Violence Program offers information and support for:

Intimate Partner Violence survivors and their family and friends
Dating violence
Stalking victims
Women and men of any age, race, ethnicity, immigration status, sexual orientation, gender identity, physical ability

Many services are offered in both English and Spanish. Staff and volunteers use a confidential translation service to support survivors who speak other languages. View or download Sexual Assault Center and Domestic Violence Program Client Rights and Responsibilities. Donate to the Sexual Assault Center Donations will assist efforts to empower and support families affected by sexual assault.

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Sexual And Domestic Violence Support During COVID-19

COVID-19 is having a dramatic effect on our daily lives. During a crisis like this, the risk for intimate partner and domestic violence increases and may happen at higher rates. Survivors are also at an increased risk for violence and may need additional services.

You are not alone.

The Alexandria Sexual Assault Center and Domestic Violence Program are open during the COVID-19 outbreak. The hotlines are available 24/7, and advocates are ready to listen and help. Our mission has not changed: we are here to assist people who are experiencing or have experienced violence in the short and long term.

We are here 24/7. Call us at 703.683.7273 (Sexual Assault Hotline) or 703.746.4911 (Domestic Violence Hotline). You can also find confidential crisis support and chat online at The National Sexual Assault Online Hotline.

View or download Sexual Assault Center and Domestic Violence Program Client Rights and Responsibilities.

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Easy-to-Share Resources

Raise Your Voice to Help Neighbors at Risk of Abuse and how to recognize signs of abuse in children and adults | Spanish | Amharic | Arabic

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Resources for Survivors During the COVID-19 Crisis

You can find helpful resources and information about sexual assault and domestic violence on this and the Sexual Assault Center webpages year round. In addition, below are a selection of resources that may be helpful during the COVID-19 crisis.

GENERAL RESOURCES

For up-to-date health-related information on COVID-19, visit alexandriava.gov/Coronavirus.
Resources to Meet Basic Needs for Those Impacted by the Coronavirus COVID-19 Response. Learn about economic resources and assistance, ranging from food and rental assistance to assistance for pet owners and car payment relief.
Your Rights as a Tenant During COVID-19 Outbreak. Learn your rights as a tenant and who to call if you are facing eviction.

MASK WEARING FOR SURVIVORS

Tips for People Who Have Been Choked, Strangled, or Hurt in a Way That Made It Hard to Breathe. Covering our faces is uncomfortable for all of us, but it’s especially hard for people hurt by their partners. It might seem impossible because it reminds you of what happened or could be uncomfortable seeing others in masks. This one-page flyer from the Ohio Domestic Violence Network and the Center on Partner-Inflicted Brain Injury covers why it is important tolerate wearing face makes and how to find ways to reduce the stress or anxiety that you might experience wearing a mask.
Tips on Managing Stress and Internal Upset Caused by Mask Wearing for Survivors of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault. This 12-page handout from the Ohio Domestic Violence Network explores why we can have a stressful reaction to mask wearing and provides several examples of breathing and grounding that may decrease anxious feelings and trauma reactions when you have to wear a mask in public places.

COPING AND MANAGING STRESS AND ANXIETY

Coping with COVID-19 Fear and Uncertainty (also available in Amharic, Spanish and Arabic). Fear and anxiety about COVID-19 can be overwhelming and cause strong emotions in adults and children. Taking care of yourself, your friends and your family can help you cope with stress. Helping others cope with their stress can also make your community stronger.
COVID-19 Wellness Resource Guide. A growing list of resources for self-care, managing stress and anxiety, and coping resources for individuals, parents, children, families and responders to help with the life changes and heightened stress and anxiety as a result of COVID-19.

SEXUAL AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RESOURCES

Staying Safe During COVID-19. Learn how to create a safety plan, practice self-care and reach out for help.
Mantenerse seguro durante COVID-19
How can parents find safe child-care in emergencies? Guidance about how to safely approach emergency care needs for children.
7 Ways Survivors of Sexual Violence Can Practice Self-Care When Retraumatized During Tragedy. Useful information during any high-stress time where retraumatization can occur.
Learn the Basics of Consent. A two-minute video covering the basics of asking for consent.
I Ask for Digital Consent. A one-minute video illustrating how consent should be a part of your interactions with others when you are texting or using social media.

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How You Can Help Support Survivors During the COVID-19 Crisis

Have a friend or loved one who is a survivor of sexual assault or domestic violence? Read guidance on how you can support them:

Participate in online awareness activities and events.

Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) Day of Action, April 7. Help turn social media teal — the color of sexual assault awareness and prevention — by sharing a teal selfie using #SAAM. Teal ribbons, t-shirts, nails, hair, makeup, jewelry, ties and other accessories have been popular items worn in the past. Some folks have even gotten creative and decked their pets out in teal. Wearing teal will serve as a conversation-starter for important issues like consent, respect and supporting survivors during this national crisis. You can share the following message with the post: Today is the Sexual Assault Awareness Month Day of Action, and I'm going teal to show my support for survivors. #SAAM #IAsk
Denim Day, April 29. Wear jeans and share photos of your jeans on social media using #DenimDay. Support survivors and educate yourself and others about sexual assault. Learn more about the meaning behind Denim Day.
#30DaysofSAAM Instagram Challenge. This online challenge is a great way to show your support for survivors in a time of social distancing. Learn more about the challenge and how you can participate.

Take a quiz:

Are you a Victim?
Do You Know the Basics of Consent? An online quiz putting your consent skills to the test.

Donate to the Domestic and Sexual Violence Programs or donate items for the shelter.

Educate yourself and others. Read and share the resources on this page. Learn more about sexual assault and domestic violence and ways you can help:

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What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence or intimate partner violence is a pattern of abusive or coercive behaviors that may include, but are not limited to:

physical assaults
verbal abuse
economic abuse
emotional abuse
sexual abuse
stalking and/or harassment
threat or harm

These behaviors are used by one individual to exert power or control over another individual in the context of a family or intimate relationship. This includes relationships such as dating between people who do not live together, parent/child (child or elder abuse/neglect) and persons in same-sex relationships. Overwhelmingly, intimate partner violence is perpetrated by men against women, but studies show that men are victims too.

In Alexandria alone, hundreds of women , men and children live in constant terror and pain as a result of family violence. The abuse can be physical, ranging from slaps and kicks to punching and stabbing; or psychological, including threats or verbal abuse that make a person fear for her or his safety.

View or download a flyer that helps identify signs of domestic violence in English, Spanish, Amharic or Arabic and share with your network.

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Are You a Victim?

Quiz: How Is Your Relationship? Does your partner:

V erbally insult, demean or threaten you?
I solate you from friends, family or other people? Do they become excessively jealous, possessive and/or angry in attempt to control you?
O rganize schedules to follow or harass you?
L imit your mobility, access to money and other resources or track your social media?
E xplode into a rage and abusive behaviors after using drugs and/or alcohol?
N egate your words, abilities, ideas and actions?
C hoke, punch, slap, kick, pull hair, bite, throw things, abuse or damage your personal belongings or force you to have sex?
E xcuse each attack and promise to stop?

If you answered "yes" to some of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.

However, you are not alone. Whether you need information, support, or a safe place to stay, the Domestic Violence Program has people who can help.

Call 703.746.4911 (TTY- 703.746.3288) to speak with someone from the Domestic Violence Program about the services offered.

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Reproductive Coercion Checklist

Questions to consider:

Am I afraid to ask my partner to use condoms/birth control?
Has my partner ever pressured me to get pregnant when I didn't want to?
Has my partner ever tampered with or thrown away my contraceptives?
Has my partner ever accused me of not loving them because I did not want to have sex?
Does my partner remove condoms during set, or claim that condoms keep breaking during sex?

If you answered "yes" to some of these questions, you may be experiencing reproductive coercion.

However, you are not alone. Whether you need information, support, or a safe place to stay, the Domestic Violence Program has people who can help.

Call 703.746.4911 (TTY- 703.746.3288) to speak with someone from the Domestic Violence Program about the services offered.

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Dating Violence

Early Warning Signs of Dating Violence

These warning signs apply to partners of any age. These signs do not mean a relationship will definitely turn violent. However, if you notice several of them in your partner, you may need to reevaluate your dating relationship. These warning signs include:

Is excessively jealous
Constantly checks in with you
Attempts to isolate you from friends and family
Insults people that you care about
Is too serious about the relationship too quickly
Has bad prior relationships and blames the problems on the previous partners
Is controlling- gives you orders, tells you what to wear, tries to make decisions for you
Blames you when he or she treats you badly by telling you all of the ways you provoked it
Has an explosive temper
Pressures you into sexual activity with which you are not comfortable
Leads you to worry about how he/she will react to the things you say (Fear of provoking your partner)
Leads you to making excuses or apologizing for his/her behavior
Refuses to let you end the relationship

Notice these Signs in your Relationship?
Trust your intuition! If you believe there may be a problem in your relationship, you are probably right. Do not ignore the warning signs. It gets worse, not better.

Spend time with people you care about other than your partner
Stay in touch with your friends
Keep up with activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good about yourself
Learn more on this site about available help and resources

Call 703.746.4911 (TTY- 703.746.3288) to speak with someone from the Domestic Violence Program about the services offered.

Warning Signs

Additional Dating Violence Resources for Parents of Teens

Starting the Conversation Early

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Digital Abuse

Digital abuse is using technology such as texting and social networking to bully, harass, stalk or intimidate an intimate partner. Ninety-seven percent of domestic violence programs reported the survivors they work with have experienced stalking, harassment, threats and monitoring through the use and misuse of technology. Some signs of possible abuse are:

Controlling who can and cannot be the partner’s friends on social media.
Sending negative, insulting or threatening messages online
Using apps to keep tabs on partner
Pressuring partner to share explicit pictures
Pressuring partner to share their passwords
Partner fears punishment for not replying to texts

Below are some tips on how to keep safe using technology:

Technology can help survivors build connections, document abuse and access life-saving resources. Build safer technology practices by checking privacy settings, changing passwords and security questions, and downloading a personal safety app.
One common way technology is used in domestic violence is to monitor their partner's social media and monitor friends’ and families’ online posts. Check your privacy settings and consider asking friends and family not to tag you in posts or share pictures of you online.
Survivors are most likely to experience monitoring and harassment through texts, social media and having their computer use monitored. One way to be safer is to use devices to which only you have access.
Many survivors report having their accounts accessed without permission. Two-factor authentication lets you have more control over how your accounts are accessed. Consider setting it up for all your personal accounts.

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Protection Orders

What is a Protection Order?

A Protection Order is a civil order that can:

order the respondent (abusive partner) to refrain from acts of family abuse against you
prohibit contact between the respondent and you, including in person, phone, electronically and/or mail contact
give you temporary possession of your residence
grant you possession of a jointly owned automobile
order the respondent to stay away from you, your children or any family members including pets
order the respondent to stay away from your residence and/or place of employment
order the respondent into a counseling program

Who can get a Protection Order?

Protection orders are designed for people who are experiencing stalking or family abuse. Family abuse is any act of violence, force, or threat, including any forceful detention, which results in physical injury or places one in reasonable apprehension of serious bodily injury and is committed by a family or household member.
If you are related or married to/divorced, living together in the last 12 months or have children in common with the abuser, you are eligible to apply for a protection order in the Juvenile and Domestic Relations Court.

Please contact 703.746.4911 (TTY- 703.746.3288, Virginia Relay 711) for more information about protective orders.

Kinds of Protective Orders (Three types)

Emergency Protective Orders (EPO)
- can be requested by the police or petitioner (the victim of intimate partner violence) at time of the incident
- can be requested any day or time by a magistrate
- valid for 72 hours or until 5 p.m. the next day that court is in session
Preliminary Protection Orders (PPO)
- petitioned in the Juvenile & Domestic Relations Court or General District Court, depending on the type of relationship valid 15 days and must be personally served on respondent to be enforceable
Protection Order (PO)
- entered by the judge at the final hearing after the initial PPO expires
- valid up to two years from date of issuance and must be served on respondent by law enforcement to be enforceable
- valid in all fifty states and US territories, so wherever you go, you must carry it with you.

How to get a Protection Order:

Protection Orders are free. There is no charge for petitioning for a protection order, filing copies of a protection order, or having the order served on the abuser.

I-Can is a computer program that asks questions and completes the correct court forms. The completed forms must be taken to the Court Services Unit that serves the appropriate Juvenile & Domestic Relations District Court. Click here for the Internet-Based System for Filing Protective Orders.

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Safety Plan

A safety plan is a tool designed to help a victim consider options and develop a plan of action when living in an abusive relationship. Safety planning should always be done without the abuser's knowledge and should include the children and pets (if possible). Here are some key points to include in your personal safety plan:

Call a shelter or family violence hotline, 703.746.4911 (TTY- 703.746.3288), and talk to an advocate to find out what help is available to you and to help you with your safety plan.
Have money, clothes, (copies of) important papers, and extra keys, concealed in a safe place in case you need to leave in a hurry. A safe place may include a neighbor or friend's house, or hidden by the front door.
Think through all possible escape routes and a plan where you will go before an attack starts.
Do emergency drills with your children. Teach them how to dial 911.
If you have a protective order, carry it with you at all times. Make extra copies and if you can, give it to your employer, the school, and/or your residential management company.
Talk to neighbors, co-workers, etc. about your situation and work out a signal so they know when to call police. A signal can be verbal or non-verbal.
Many abusers stalk their victims through technology, like GPS devices, shared accounts and/or social media. Consider your use of technology and learn more about technology safety.
Trust your own judgment and intuition. Read The Gift of Fear, by Gavin de Becker.
You have to protect yourself until you are out of immediate danger.
Leaving your partner can be a dangerous time, plan for safety carefully and always remember ... You don't deserve to be hit or threatened!

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Domestic Violence Support Groups

Although every domestic violence situation is different, domestic violence survivors and those currently in an abusive relationship may find it helpful to talk about their feelings with others who are going through similar experiences. Our confidential group meets weekly and addresses a variety of issues related to domestic violence in a caring and nurturing environment. There is also a children's support group that meets concurrently with the women's group. Please call the Domestic Violence Program at 703.746.4911 if you are interested in attending the support group. The location of both groups is confidential.

Who?    Women who are residents of the City of Alexandria
What? Confidential weekly support group sessions for survivors of domestic violence or those currently in
an abusive relationship.
When?   Please call for details.
Where? Please contact 703.746.4911 (TTY- 703.746.3288) for information.
Why?     To understand the impact of violence on your relationship and on you.
               To learn tools to empower you and keep you safe.
               To share your experiences with others.
               To be supported as you move forward with your life.

24-Hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 703.746.4911 (TTY-703.746.3288 )

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Domestic Violence & Children

Family violence affects children from every income level, race and religion. Witnessing or hearing violence among family members damages children and as a result many children develop serious physical and mental health problems. They may have learning difficulties, troubled relationships with adults and peers and be at risk for suicide.

What is it like for children growing up in a violent home?

These children are in danger and their homes are in chaos. They live in daily fear and tension, which can cause them to be afraid of everything–and trust no one. The children often blame themselves for the violence, but they are powerless to prevent, stop or escape it. Some children will develop a love-hate relationship with parent(s). Though they feel protective of an abused parent, they may also resent that parent for not stopping the abuse. They are often isolated and feel hopeless.

Warning signs of a child living in a violent home include:

For all ages...

behaving overly responsible (as if the child is the “little adult in the family”)
depression and low-self-esteem
difficulty expressing emotions other than anger
use of violence to solve conflicts

For preschool children...

frequent crying
stuttering
frequent hitting, biting or kicking
regression (a return to bed-wetting or thumb sucking)

For school-age children...

trouble concentrating at school
fighting, bullying or self-abuse
stealing, cheating or lying
unusual knowledge of sex or violence for their age

For teenagers...

talking about or attempting suicide (can also be true for school-age children)
running away or dropping out of school
joining a gang, committing crimes or using weapons
abusive relationships

How can you help?

promote nonviolence by discouraging children from fighting and teasing
teach children how to handle conflict without violence
teach personal safety rules like how to dial 911, escape routes and safe places to go if there is a fight

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Children's Services

The Domestic Violence Program offers a Children’s Program in which a family services specialist is available to provide short-term individual counseling to children living in abusive homes. A children’s support group is offered and runs concurrently with the women’s support group. This group provides children, who share their circumstances, an opportunity to meet and talk. For children whose mother’s have relocated to the battered women’s shelter, the family services specialists available on-site for support and counseling.

Note: If you suspect child abuse or neglect, report this immediately to Child Protective Services or the police. Even if you are unsure about the abuse, report it. As long as you make the report in good faith, your rights are protected and you may save a child’s life!

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Friends and Family of Survivors

Become Informed

Gather all of the information you can about domestic violence. Check out this website and its links. You may also contact the Alexandria Domestic Violence Program at 703.746.4911, which assists battered persons and their children.

Lend A Sympathetic Ear

Let your friend know you care. Don't force the issue; allow the friend to confide in you at her/his pace. Keep your mind open. Never blame your friend!

Guide Her/Him to Community Services

Share the information you have gathered with her/him privately. Let your friend know she/he is not alone and caring people are available to help. Encourage the friend to seek assistance at a local domestic violence hotline or program. Encourage your friend to develop a safety plan to protect her/himself and children.

Focus on His/Her Strengths

Give your friend the emotional support she/he needs to believe she/he is a good person. Help your friend examine strengths and skills she/he possess. Emphasize she/he deserves a life free from violence.

If She/He Decides To Leave

The first place your friend should call is a domestic violence hotline. They can help your friend examine the options available.

Be careful when offering and providing safety in your home. The battered person frequently faces the most physical danger when s/he attempts to flee. Be discreet and talk to domestic violence program staff about the best way to handle this.

What To Say When Your Friend Says She/He Can't Leave

I am afraid for your safety.
I am afraid for the safety of your children.
It will only get worse.
I am here for you when you are ready to leave.
You don't deserve to be abused.

When To Intervene

Intimate partner violence is a crime that can result in serious physical injury and even death. If you are a neighbor and know that an abusive incident is occurring, call the police immediately. Calling the police is simply the most effective way to protect the victim and children from immediate harm.

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Family Violence in the Workplace

What is Domestic Violence or Intimate Partner Violence?

A pattern of abusive, coercive and violent behavior between people who are married or living together, or who have an ongoing or prior intimate relationship.
Includes physical assaults and psychological threats as well as verbal abuse and economic control that make a person fear for her or his safety.

Why should businesses care?

Intimate partner violence is estimated to cost up to $5 billion a year in reduced productivity and absenteeism - costs absorbed by the company.
Companies are at risk for increased liability for the safety of both workplace and employees.
From a survey of senior executives in Fortune 1000 companies, it is reported that 66 percent believe if family violence issues were addressed with employees, the company's financial performance would improve.
The U.S. Department of Justice estimates that in 60,000 incidents of on-the-job violence, the victims knew their attackers intimately.

Workplace Warning Signs

Unexplained bruises of defensive injuries
Increased absenteeism
Increased threatening and/or harassing phone calls
Lack of concentration and decreased work performance
Lack of interest in social activities and being withdrawn with co-workers
Employee's partner visits the workplace and spreads rumors, tries to gather information about their partner from the victim's colleagues and/or excessively contacts the employee
Personal visits to the workplace that are disruptive and/or frequent

What your company can do

Make it safe for the victim to talk to someone in your organization. Telling someone is the first step towards getting help.
Establish policies and procedures that address family violence. Remember family violence can also mean a threat to workplace security.
Presentations on this issue are available. Call 703.746.4911 for information.

What managers and supervisors can do

Be aware of any visible warning signs.
Offer referrals with domestic violence or intimate partner violence services.
Help to create a workplace safety plan.
Be sure to respect the employee's privacy. This is a very difficult time and confidentiality is important.
Attend Family Violence issues training.

Workplace Safety Plan

Creating a safety plan for the workplace can be an effective tool for both the employer and employee. Here are a few suggestions to include:

I can inform ____________ at work of my situation. (My boss, security, a co-worker)
I can give a photo of the abuser and a description of the car to ____________.
I can move my work space to a more secure area.
Safe places at work to escape to are ____________.
I can use voice mail, a receptionist, or a co-worker to screen my calls at work.

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Protecting Your Family Pet

Intimate partner abuse crosses all categories, even pets. Animal cruelty is often an early warning sign of violent tendencies that may turn into intimate partner violence. Several recent surveys indicate that nearly half of all women entering intimate partner violence shelters reported that a pet had also been threatened, injured or killed by their abuser.

If you are a victim, your pet may have been hurt, or is in danger of being hurt. Often an abuser will hurt the family pet as a way to gain power and control. If your abuser has harmed your pet, you may be in increasing danger of being hurt yourself. If animal abuse is happening in your home, you should consider leaving however, your pet should not be left in the home if you do decide to leave.

How You Can Protect Your Family Pet

It's very important to have an emergency shelter plan for your pet as well as for yourself and for your children. If you have a pet, ask yourself the following questions before leaving a violent situation (Taken from The Humane Society of the United States, First Strike Campaign):

Who will give my pet food, water, shelter, companionship, and medical care? Make arrangements with a friend or family member to care for your pet, before you leave. If no one can do this, get in touch with the Alexandria Domestic Violence Program, who will assist you in placing your pet temporarily with the Alexandria Animal Welfare League. Rest assured, your pet will be able to stay with the local animal shelter for up to ten days and will be provided with food, water, and lots of love, while you concentrate on other important decisions affecting your future.
Is my pet up to date on all of its vaccinations? Veterinary clinics, kennels, and the animal shelter require proof of vaccination for boarding. If you don't have proof, they may vaccinate your pet and charge you for it. Keep vaccination and other veterinary records together so you can take them with you. If you don't have these records, ask your veterinarian to send you copies. If your pet is not current on its vaccinations, make arrangements with your veterinarian or the local Animal Welfare League for low-cost vaccinations.
Does my pet have a current license with the City? If your pet's safety is at risk and is licensed under the abuser's name, re-license your pet in the name of whoever is caring for it. This will prevent the abuser from using the license as proof of ownership to claim the animal.
Would my pet be better off if I put it up for adoption? Giving up a beloved pet is a hard decision, but it may be best for both of you. It is expensive to relocate and not all landlords accept pets, or they may charge an additional security deposit. Realizing that your pet is safer in a new home can make the decision a little easier. While animal shelters cannot guarantee to place every animal, they do find permanent homes for many animals. It is easier for shelter staff to find a home for your pet if they have certain information. Is the animal housetrained, obedience trained, good with children or other animals? Also, they will need to know your pet's medical history, behavior, and its likes and dislikes. To ease that pain of separation, you may want to take photos of your pet for you and your children to keep.
What should I take when I move my pet to safety? Some emergencies allow for little or no preparation. However, if you are able to prepare for your pet's departure, try to have the following on hand: vaccinations and medical records; collar and identification tags; leashes; carriers; your pet's medication; information on feeding schedules, daily walks, likes and dislikes, and any behavior problems; and your pet's favorite personal items (bowls, bedding, grooming supplies, and toys).

Domestic Violence Intervention Project (DVIP) A Coordinated Community Response

Mission
The Domestic Violence Intervention Project (DVIP) is dedicated to promoting safe and healthy relationships through community coordination.

Purpose
All residents of the City of Alexandria are affected by domestic violence. Because domestic violence occurs in all areas of our community, there is a need for a coordinated community response. DVIP addresses arrest, prosecution, victim advocacy, treatment, education, and training.

Goals
The goals of DVIP are to coordinate and monitor the response of the legal system and the community to family violence incidents in Alexandria, Virginia. Specifically, our goals are:

to ensure that victims are provided with effective protection and services
to see that assailants are held accountable for illegal behavior; and
to increase community awareness of family violence

Participating Agencies (not inclusive)

Alexandria City Public Schools (ACPS)
Alexandria INOVA Hospital
Court Services Unit
Department of Community & Human Services
Fire Department
Health Department
Legal Services of Northern Virginia
Office of the Commonwealth's Attorney
Office of Housing
Office of the Magistrate
Office of Probation and Parole
Office of Sheriff
Private Citizens
Police Department
Social Services
Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN)
Substance Abuse Services
Victim Witness Assistance Program (VWAP)

Your participation is needed! If you would like to attend our monthly DVIP meeting, or have a suggestion to improve the coordinating council and Alexandria's response to domestic violence, please contact 703.746.4911 for meeting times and information.

How to Help the Domestic Violence Program

Donate to the Domestic Violence Program
Donations will assist efforts to empower and support families affected by intimate partner violence.
Donate items from our Wish List - Shelter Wish List
Volunteers are an integral part of the Domestic Violence Program. After a comprehensive training course, volunteers may become client advocates. Volunteers answer the 24-hour hotline on weekends. They provide emotional support and information to assist victims in regaining control of their lives. Volunteers also accompany victims of domestic assault to the police department and/or hospital. If you are interested in more information about volunteering, call 703.746.4911 and ask to speak to the volunteer coordinator or submit a volunteer application. .
Home-Warming Basket from Alexandria Crime Prevention Council and Neighborhood Watch Captains
Annual Domestic Violence Program Children’s Holiday Party
Every December, the Alexandria Domestic Violence Program (DVP) organizes a Holiday Party for children and parents who have been recently served by the program. At the party, the families reunite with past shelter friends and staff, eat and take pictures with Santa Claus, among other activities. Each parent and child also receives a bag of gifts to wrap and place under their own tree on Christmas Day. More than 100 families look forward to this exciting event.
The party was cancelled this year due to the pandemic, but DVP invites you to support these children by donating gift cards to local stores in denominations of $25. DVP will give the gift cards to families so they will have the opportunity to purchase something special for themselves or their children. To promote safe gift-giving, DVP prefers donations of gift cards but is also accepting new, unwrapped children's toys; DVP will provide families with wrapping paper to personalize each child's gift. Donations can be sent to 123 N. Pitt Street, Suite 225, Alexandria VA or dropped off at that location by appointment by calling 703.746.4911. The deadline for drop-off or delivery of gift cards or unwrapped new toys is December 15. You can also donate directly to the Domestic Violence Program online.

If you need help deciding what to purchase, or if you have any other questions about donating for this event, call 703.746.4911.

Silent Witness Project and Candlelight Vigil

Each year, in Market Square, in front of City Hall at 301 King Street, the Domestic Violence Program holds the Silent Witness Candlelight Vigil, an annual event during which we remember and honor all those who have died, or are still suffering, due to acts of intimate partner violence.

Shower for the Shelter

Alexandria Domestic Violence Safe House

More than 50 women assisted each year! Not only do we provide shelter, but a gift basket of items when women leave the Safe House and start their new life. Shower for the Shelter will help “restock the shelves” of items needed for the Safe House and for gift baskets.

All you need to do is find something you would like to purchase, add it to your cart, check out, and your items will be shipped to us. Your help is greatly appreciated for this extremely worthy cause. Gently used household and clothing items, gift cards, and cash donations/debit cards are also welcome.

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Charity Registry Sponsored by the Alexandria Commission for Women and Friends of the Alexandria Commission for Women; on behalf of the Department of Community and Human Services Domestic Violence Program.

Resources, Reading Lists & Related Links

Resources in Virginia

City of Alexandria

Alexandria Domestic Violence Program: 703.746.4911 (TTY- 703.746.3288, Virginia Relay 711)
Alexandria Sexual Assault and Awareness Program: 703.683.7273

Arlington County

Arlington Doorways Safehouse: 703.237.0881
Arlington Violence Intervention Program: 703.228.4848
Arlington Batterer's Intervention Program: 703.228.4848
Ethiopian Community Development Council: 703.685.0510, ext.265 or 512.537.5566

Fairfax County

Fairfax County Women's Shelter: 703.435.4940
Fairfax County Victim's Assistance Network: 703.360.7273
ADAPT (Fairfax County Men's Program): 703.968.4000

Fredericksburg

Rappahannock Council on Domestic Violence: 540.373.9373
Rappahannock Council Against Sexual Assault: 540.371.1666

Loudoun County

Loudoun County Abused Women's Shelter: 703.777.6552

Prince William County

ACTS.Turning Points (Prince William Co.. Manassas City, Manassas Park, Woodbridge): 703.221.4951
Prince William County Sexual Assault and Victim's Advocacy (SAVAS): 703.368.4141

Resources Outside of Virginia

Maryland & District of Columbia

House of Ruth (DC): 202.347.2777
My Sister's Place (DC): 202.529.5991
Montgomery County (MD): 301.654.1881
Prince George's County (MD): 301. 864.9101
Ethiopian Community Development Council: 703.685.0510, ext.265 or 512.537.5566

State/National hotlines

Family Violence & Sexual Assault Virginia Hotline: 1.800.838.8238 (Voice/TTY)
National Center for Victims of Crime Hotline: (800) FYI-CALL
National Domestic Violence Hotline: (Voice) (800) 799-SAFE, (TTY) 1.800.787.3224

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